How To Boost Your Sex Appeal As A Man
How to increase your sex appeal as a man and attract more women
Men often ask me “How can I boost my sex appeal?” It’s actually a loaded question that covers a multitude of domains.
What is sex appeal even? It’s that quality a man has that makes him very irresistible for women.
There’s the physical aspect of sex appeal like being fit and having your grooming on point. Then there’s the non-physical dimension which is how you carry yourself.
Sex appeal doesn't mean you look like Brad Pitt in Fight Club. That’s one option, but “nerdier” guys can still have sex appeal, truckers can have sex appeal, IT guys can have sex appeal. It’s all about not breaking certain principles which I’ll discuss below.
Let’s examine how you can boost your sex appeal as a man.
Having confidence (obviously)
“I can’t believe you wanted to go out with me. I really didn't think I was your type…”
“It’s not often I date someone as pretty as you…”
Do any of these types of statements convey confidence? Hell no.
Sex appeal requires self-assurance. You need to act like you’ve been here before. You need to be unphased by an attractive woman giving you attention.
You can certainly reciprocate any attention she gives to you - but don’t put her up on a pedestal, especially verbally. This shows low self-esteem.
Never ever convey verbally that she’s somehow better or of higher status than you. You lose all mystery at that point.
Dressing in a way that compliments your body
Sex appeal requires you to have the kind of fashion style that makes sense with what you’re working with.
If you’re 6”2 and on the heavier side, skinny jeans aren't a good idea. You’ll likely need a regular fit.
If you’re 5”5 and weigh 125 pounds, a regular fit might not work for you. You’ll probably want something more fitted.
On the other hand you can wear oversized tops that will make you look bigger. You have to pick clothing items that will make you look more attractive.
You also want to avoid cringey accessories. Big fake loud watches, cheap chains, rings…a lot of these things aren’t attractive to women. Less is more.
Dress like an adult and look mature. That’s the safe bet.
Posture and eye contact
Body language is important. You want to maintain good eye contact with women and stand tall.
Having a slouched posture and dragging your feet when you walk does not signal sex appeal.
Instead, walk with your back straight up, don’t cross your arms, and look at people directly when you talk to them.
Don’t have a big mouth
“How’s my night going? I’ve been dealing with a huge zit on my back and let’s just say my stomach ain’t feeling too good from the taco leftovers I had for breakfast this morning.”
“You’re the first woman I actually feel a connection with even though it’s only our first date.”
Are you leaving any mystery with those statements? Definitely not.
You got a big mouth if anything. And when you talk too much, you’re ruining your sex appeal.
Please shut up. Do not overshare and do not say anything that’s too private or crosses a boundary. Your potential diarrhea is not a good conversation topic to bring up.
Have cool things to talk about
When it comes to conversation, you want to be interesting.
Boring guys who do nothing all day hurt their sex appeal.
You need to be an active participant in life so you have more things to say.
Aside from telling a woman you do jiu jitsu in your free time, when you’re actually doing jiu jitsu or something interesting, you’re around other people and you’re hearing their stories.
Their events can become new conversation pieces for you to use or talk about on a date.
The more people you’re around, the more potential content you’re exposed to that can be used in a future conversation.
Don’t be a slob
Listen, I know I like to tell men they need to be in 12%-15% body fat range.
That’s easier said than done.
It’s very hard to diet, workout often, and get lean.
But while you’re trying to transform your body, do not look like a slob.
Avoid sugar and high sodium foods - you don’t want to be bloated and have a round looking head. Salt and sugar will do that since they retain water.
Look clean and fresh as well. What I mean by that is have your grooming on point, address your acne if you have any, and don’t have any nose or ear hairs sticking out.
Have an orderly appearance. Looking like a chaotic mess will not increase your sex appeal.
